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Post by mikemc on Jun 14, 2019 11:13:49 GMT -5
Brother-in-law abused generosity CAROLYN HAX Dear Carolyn, My very generous and wealthy friends threw a dinner for me and my husband for our 10th wedding anniversary. My brother-in-law ordered drinks that had to total in the hundreds, and two steaks, and he chose a bottle of wine that my friend who sat next to him later told me ran five figures. Our friends didn’t balk at the check, but you could tell that they were surprised by the total. I would like to address this with them and offer to pay toward my brother-in-law’s extravagance. My husband says they had to expect that sort of thing, and we’d just be embarrassing them. Which of us is right? — N For your spouse to declare, more or less, that your friends had it coming because they chose to be extra generous has me clutching my pearls so hard I might rip them off — and use them to thwack him and his brother both. When you’re directly or indirectly responsible for causing someone pain, you apologize. Call your friends and say you were horrified by your brother-in-law’s behavior, and offer to make them whole. — Write to Carolyn Hax in care of The Providence Journal Features Department, 75 Fountain St., Providence, RI 02902, or email tellme@ washpost.com . So Dex, how was the wine and did you finish both steaks??? ....gotta love friartown...
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Post by friar82 on Jun 14, 2019 11:19:14 GMT -5
LOL!
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Post by dex on Jun 14, 2019 14:43:06 GMT -5
Doggie Bag: Steak and Eggs the next morning Mike
As for the wine, I've had better
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Post by dex on Jun 20, 2019 11:02:45 GMT -5
RELATIONSHIP ADVICE Worried she’s Mrs. Robinson AMY DICKINSON
Dear Amy,
I am a 53-year-old, never-married woman. I keep in shape, and I’m often told that I’m beautiful.
Six months ago, I met a very interesting and intelligent man. I am falling hard for him.
Here’s the issue: He is 29 years old — 24 years younger than me.
He is very mature, and I don’t feel the difference in age when we are together.
My friends are horrified and remind me that he’s young enough to be my son. They tell me it’s inappropriate and urge me to be realistic about any future with him.
He has told me that someday he does want to settle down and have children with a wife (obviously, it won’t be me).
Do you think our age difference is OK for now — or is it totally inappropriate?
— Mrs. Robinson
You are not, actually, “Mrs. Robinson.” The fictional Mrs. Robinson (the character from the book/ movie “The Graduate”) was a middle-aged woman having an affair with a naive 21-year-old man — and the affair commenced after she had basically hunted and sexually harassed him, in the guise of “seducing” him.
Your guy is almost 30 years old. Thirty-year-old adults should be able to engage in whatever healthy, non-exploitative relationships they want. So should 53-year-olds.
— Write to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068, or email askamy@ amydickinson.com .
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Post by friar82 on Jun 20, 2019 15:55:31 GMT -5
Coo-coo-ca-choo!
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Post by pcdad on Jun 20, 2019 16:48:51 GMT -5
Dustin Hoffman was a 30 year-old actor playing the 21 year old character Benjamin Braddock.
What about Jennifer O'Neil in the "Summer of '42"? Early 20's? More husbands than Za Za? ... don't care. Live and let Live...We are all on the Road to Emmaus.
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Post by dex on Jun 21, 2019 12:41:02 GMT -5
Two years ago I mentioned Summer Of '42 and Jennifer O'Neil to WTM97 our formerly great Mod.
I had to give him smelling salts but eventually I got him back on his feet.
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Post by dex on Jun 26, 2019 7:55:30 GMT -5
RELATIONSHIP ADVICE Assault brings on ethical dilemma AMY DICKINSON
Dear Amy,
My daughter, “Carrie,” just started her third year of medical school.
Carrie was out over the weekend with a lot of other medical students when one fourth-year student started talking to her and then proceeded to grope her forcefully.
Carrie was too shocked to react; then she panicked and ran out of the bar and all the way back to her apartment.
She is too embarrassed and traumatized to report this guy to the school, but her friends have offered to report him, without revealing her name.
The man who did this is going to graduate as a physician next year, and even now is responsible for patient care.
I’m wondering if there’s anything else I can or should do.
— Worried Mother
You should urge her to visit her school’s counseling center.
This man will have even more access — and privacy — when he is a physician.
Reporting him to the police, and/or notifying the medical school about this incident — anonymously or otherwise — may protect another person/patient down the road.
Also, encourage her to contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline: (800) 656-4673, rainn.org.
— Write to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068, or email askamy@ amydickinson.com .
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Post by dex on Jun 27, 2019 7:47:27 GMT -5
RELATIONSHIP ADVICE Ex won’t admit he’s married
AMY DICKINSON
Dear Amy,
My ex-fiancé and I have shared custody of our child. Although my ex is wealthy, I have never asked for child support because I just wanted us to focus on co-parenting, without the mess.
My mother informed me that my ex was engaged after she saw it on social media. He never told me. They got married quickly after being engaged, and he still hasn’t said anything to me.
My ex and I had a great relationship until he started seeing this woman; now our relationship has an awkward vibe.
I’m not sure why he’s hiding this important event from me. Should I say something, so this doesn’t further strain our relationship?
— Glass Half Full
You seem to focus entirely on your ex’s life when you should be focusing on your own and your child’s.
You both seem cowardly. He is too chicken to tell you he’s gotten married. And you don’t seem to have advocated for your child. Even if you can readily afford to raise your child, helping to support a child financially is an important aspect of “co-parenting.”
You should receive legal counsel as soon as possible.
And find the words. Say to your ex, “So, I understand that you and Margo got married. Can you explain why you decided not to tell me this?”
— Write to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068, or email askamy@ amydickinson.com .
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Post by friar82 on Jun 27, 2019 13:10:27 GMT -5
My Thoughts for Today: The Prodigal Program
"... a Conference has two New England Programs. The larger program has historically believed that it's brand is bigger than that of the Conference, while the smaller program has stood by the Conference through many a twist and turn since its inception. The larger program once headed off to find the greener pastures of BCS monies, only to end up destitute and subsequently return to the Conference - hat in hand, with new found admiration and lust for all that the Conference is accomplishing. To the larger program's surprise, it is not scorned by the Conference but welcomed back with celebration and fanfare. Disgusted, certain followers of the smaller program refuse to participate in the celebration, to which the President of the smaller program tweets that the larger program was lost and know is found by the Conference - while fans of the smaller program have always had the Conference, all that it offers, and should now feel blessed."
Hopefully, this thought provides some measure of comfort to those who may be distressed.
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Post by dex on Jul 3, 2019 7:50:12 GMT -5
Ex-wife should leave past in the past CAROLYN HAX
The following first appeared in 2005.
Dear Carolyn,
My husband and I divorced bitterly 10 years ago. Last year he made remarks and did things that let me know he still has feelings for me — even though he has remarried and has a baby on the way.
Soon after, his wife and I had an argument and I told her how I felt. Now this “churchgoing Christian” has convinced his wife that I’m crazy and made everything up. Now I hate him more than ever.
The problem is he and I have kids together and I have to deal with their hatred and hostility. How do I handle this situation?
— Wanting the Truth to Be Told
The problem is that you’re an ongoing source of the hatred and hostility.
The following are absolutely none of your business: 1) Your ex-husband’s current marriage.
2) Why your ex-husband entered his current marriage. 3) How your ex-husband feels about his current wife. 4) What your ex-husband tells his current wife.
The best way to handle this situation — best for your children — is to keep your relations with your ex and his new wife civil. You don’t have to like them. You just need to keep your kids’ feelings a priority and to leave the past in the past.
— Write to Carolyn Hax in care of The Providence Journal Features Department, 75 Fountain St., Providence, RI 02902, or email tellme@ washpost.com .
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Post by dex on Jul 8, 2019 8:00:23 GMT -5
My girlfriend spanks her son CAROLYN HAX
Picture Dear Carolyn,
My longtime girlfriend is a single mom. I have a very good relationship with her son.
She spanks him, and I don’t believe in spanking. I talked to her about it a lot, we argued some, and then finally several months ago she told me she was going to stop. As far as I knew, she did.
But then last week her son told me he wished I lived with them. I asked him why and he said, “Because my mom doesn’t spank me when you’re around.”
She admitted she hasn’t stopped spanking him, she’s just stopped doing it in my presence.
She then said I had no right to talk to her son about her behind her back, and later that day she spanked him in front of me over something very minor, which I think was her way of telling both him and me that she’s the boss.
— Upset
Your girlfriend is abusing her son, so, yes, you need to talk to an expert.
Please call Childhelp, 1-800-4-A-CHILD.
I suggest Childhelp not instead of CPS, but before CPS, to help people understand what their options are.
— Write to Carolyn Hax in care of The Providence Journal Features Department, 75 Fountain St., Providence, RI 02902, or email tellme@ washpost.com.
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Post by pcdad on Jul 8, 2019 11:08:52 GMT -5
How did we ever survive this version of parental abuse?
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Post by mikemc on Jul 8, 2019 14:35:30 GMT -5
How did we ever survive this version of parental abuse? Wooden yard stick or wooden spoon. Depended on what was closest. ....gotta love friartown...
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Post by dex on Jul 8, 2019 16:06:49 GMT -5
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